ᴄᴏɴsᴛʀᴜᴄᴛɪᴠᴇ ᴄʀɪᴛɪᴄɪsᴍ- is the process of offering valid and well-reasoned opinions about the work of others, usually involving both positive and negative comments, in a friendly manner rather than an oppositional one. This is the general want, when someone asks for advice. We want Constructive Criticism. I’ve been sort of going through this whole thing where I’m talking about rejection, and how long the process is- basically this whole idea of making sure that you never give up on something that you love; no matter what anyone says. And I stand by that. I’m this small time something or other, trying to get my name out there as much as I can. I’m not doing so bad, and in the time, I’ve been working on getting myself out there; I’ve been put down and rejected. It hurts and makes you quickly want to put on the brakes. But I expect a rejection letter and I expect to put myself down along the process. Especially when it feels like it’s taking me forever to get to one point, or I put myself on a timeout to breathe away from the constant selling of myself and my work. However, the last thing I would want or expect is for my own peers to push me down as well. We should be able to come together and advise from our personal triumphs and tribulations. Yet, when I’ve been getting a couple comments regarding my work, that are claimed to be Critical Criticism, and I read over and over the words. I feel the sting that they leave behind, and I realize that what I’m reading is not critical in a sense to make me feel okay about what I’m doing but to let me know that I’m no good at what I’m doing. These messages are missing a key factor, and whether the other person is aware or not; unless requested for this tidbit of information I’m not even sure it was needed to be said. I didn’t ask to get put down, and I certainly wouldn’t request such harsh advice. We are all working to find an end goal, and we’ve all felt the pain of getting told no, or of just being our own Negative Nelly, that we don’t need anyone else doing it for us. As peers, we should push in the right direction, advise when asked, and give compliments where we see fit. It isn’t a competition in truth, because there are so many needs for products, for help, for books, that we should assist in a way that benefits everyone. Just think. If you were to work together with that person that you saw as a competition, you may be able to pick up more followers, learn new techniques, and even possibly realize that you aren’t so different. We all have mistakes, faults, and our own negativity that we deal with. There’s no reason to add more to someone. Be a light in their darkness. There will be one person that you will give a compliment to that it will benefit them in a way you wouldn’t even understand, and in the end; wouldn’t that feel better than trying to suffocate the flame they’ve worked so hard to build?
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